Ask A Queer: Morgan
Today’s queer is Morgan Nicole from Clinton, Iowa. Morgan is a 21-year-old creative with a day job as a front desk clerk at a chiropractic office and she is currently in her last year of college. She is a primarily a writer, with her own website, The Scarlet Script, “where strong women are encouraged to tell their stories without fear of judgement or prosecution,” and also does portrait photography.
If there is a word you don’t understand in this blog post, you can consult the main page of “Ask A Queer” for definitions. Now let’s get into it! The following responses from Morgan were only edited for clarity. These words and this experience are all hers.
How do you identify? What are your pronouns?
I identify as a pansexual female. My pronouns are she/her.
What do you wish people understood about your identity?
I wish people understood that being pansexual doesn’t separate me from the person they knew before they knew I was pansexual. It’s always been a part of my identity, even when I didn’t really know who I was, if that makes sense. Yes, I’m pansexual, but I’m also so much more than that. Which is how every person is, regardless of their sexuality or gender identity. I also wish there wasn’t such negative stigma around it. I tell people I’m pansexual and a few questions always seem to come up. First and foremost, “What even is pansexuality?” is the BIGGEST question I get and when I explain it, the following question is usually “OH, so you mean bisexual?”. I wish that people took the time to understand pansexuality as a separate category, even if it falls under the same ‘umbrella’ as bisexuality.
What can straight/cis people do to support your community?
Listen to what we have to say and instead of blowing it off or neglecting certain aspects of what we are saying, put yourself in the shoes of someone who is constantly having to defend who they are to everyone else. I think if we stop focusing on our differences, we will start to see how much we have in common and how much love we have to go around.
What do you love about being queer?
I love feeling like I can love whomever I choose and having a community that is there to celebrate that love with me. When I came out, I somehow gained so many friends who also identify as LGBTQ+ and in that friend group, I feel unapologetically myself. It’s so freeing and amazing.
How do you stay connected to the LGBTQ+ community?
I try to keep up with the political side of things, of course, and advocate for what I feel best supports the community as a whole. Also, I have a lot of friends who do drag and I dabble in it myself, which is so fun and a great way to stay connected to the community.
What does the LGBTQ+ community need to work on? How can they better support your identity?
Being accepting of bisexual and pansexual people is a big one, especially with some of the older generation of LGBTQ+ folk. Just remember that we’re not “confused” or a “gay in hiding,” we know what we want and we want you to love us the way we love you.
Describe your coming out experience in 5 words or less.
A lot better than expected.
What is your favorite piece of LGBTQ+ media?
Ooooh, the Expectations album by Hayley Kiyoko (and her in general). And “Bad at Love” by Halsey.
Who is your LGBTQ+ role model?
I really love Demi Lovato because she’s open to connection with all people and leaves the possibilities open without labeling herself. But my real life role model in the LGBTQ+ community is my ex-boyfriend. We dated for two and a half years in high school and at the conclusion of that time, he came out to me and was so genuine. We’re still best friends and he’s so happy and more himself than ever and it just makes me realize how much it really means to be able to be your true self and find happiness again.
Who is your favorite LGBTQ+ celebrity?
Ellen Degeneres! She was one of my only real, open LGBTQ+ celebrities to look up to growing up and my mom and I watched her every day when I got home from school. She’s so loving and kind and it really makes me try to look at life in a more positive light.